My interview experiences part 1 - For fresh graduate

Assalamualaikum and Hi,

[This will be a super long post and I will only publish it once I got a job - if you're reading this alhamdulillah I already get a job! - and by the time this was published, it has been 3 years since I started working]

Written starting from 26/03/2018 until today
I want to share about a lifetime experience I've had. Failing interviews, or failures (I never had any major failure before). To be honest, I've never been in real interviews before I graduate, and the only experience I have is mock interview in school which is like 5 years ago. Furthermore, I just think of taking a rest after a long freaking 14 years of exams and stuffs. After a few months I finished my studies, I immediately make a resume, create a profile on JobStreet and LinkedIn and start applying for jobs. These two are the best platform for job hunting. I applied for 400++ positions and receive around more than 10 invitations. But nothing can beat career fair so far. I got quite many interview invitations, which means my resume is fine. The main problem here is my interviews. I have issues with interviews mainly because I get nervous easily, I didn't know how to talk about myself and probably I'm not sure of what I want.
  1. Underwriter - Company A - FAILED
    I still remember the day I went to this interview. My very first interview. This company is located in the middle of KL near Bukit Bintang. I went there by LRT and then took Grab. When I first entered the company I was amazed because the building was quite big. As a girl coming from Kedah and never saw high tech stuffs, I'm amazed to see the security was very tight, just to enter building need to verify a lot of things.

    Upon arrival, I was given a questions to answer, basically about medical and insurance stuffs. It's quite easy but confusing. The job description showed that this job need someone who worked really work under HIGH pressure, so when the interview emphasized on this, I became scared so it didn't show on my face that I was able to do that. And so I failed.

  2. Business Analyst - Company B - FAILED
    For this position, they need someone who have 5 years experience but I didn't know why they call me. And the only reason I went for the interview because I got the invitation at the same time with job 1. The office was nice, the job was good but I didn't show much confidence at that time. Thus, I didn't receive the offer.

  3. Product Specialist - Company C - FAILED
    When I applied for this position, I don't really know what it does but I just said to myself just give it a try but I know it was a company selling medical supplies. During interview I just realized it's just another fancy name for professional sales person.  And I'm not good in sales at all! The interviewer asked basic questions and then he asked me to do a demonstration on how to sell the products to people. At this part I went blank already! So good bye to this one 😂

  4. Trainee Embryologist - Hospital D - FAILED
    This job is located at the hospital in one of my favourite city. I understand the job nature. The interview was very smooth and just fine. I was really excited because the interviewers said they will send the staff for this job to Vietnam for training for about 6 months. I think what makes me failed this interview was my body language showed I don't really favour working on weekends and public holidays. Two week after the interview, the hospital revert back to me with tthe results.

  5. Research Assistant - Company E - FAILED
    This interview was the weirdest one. The call interview and email invitation were okay. They said they collaborate with government to work on textbook syllabus for Biology and Anatomy. When I went for the interview, the company located in a studio apartment. Then they asked me to answer anatomy related test before briefly interviewed me. They didn't ask anything related to me but just explained the job desription. That's kind of weird to me. After the interview, I emailed them for follow up and they said they will update me after two weeks. Two weeks later, I emailed them again but they said they were busy moving to their new office. After one week, their email no longer valid. Until now, I think they were scammers but I never knew their reasons. This was my last interview in 2017 and I stopped attending interviews for a while.

  6. Medical Underwriter - Company F- FAILED
    This is a position in one of the top insurance company in Malaysia. Since I went to interview 1, I think I will be able to survive this one. The interviewers looked a lil bit strict, but they were okay. However, when they ask about handling stress and weakness, I got nervous and cried. The interviewers were surprise and they end up giving me advices instead of asking me questions. I got a free counselling session instead. And we all know I didn't get the job.

  7. Administration and Diplomatic Officer - Government - FAILED
    This one is the hottest job for government . Almost 200k people applied for this job when it's open every year. But only 400 will make it to the final stage. The stage consists of - online test, fitness test, group interview and finally the individual interview. 

    The online tests consist of General Knowledge test and Psychometric test. For General Knowledge test, you need to Google at fast speed while Psychometric test you need to think critically because most of the questions are not logic haha jkjk. I cannot really remember about the physical test, but they were like the one we had back in high school. And the last one is group interview - writing, speaking test and group discussion. I only make it to the group interview and failed at that stage. 

  8. Temporary Teacher - School G - PASSED
    I went to this interview after physical test for 7. There was a vacancy at my primary school and they need replacement ASAP. It was a quick one and I was inform to start a week later.

  9. SL1M Trainee - Company H - PASSED
    Back then when Covid19 didn't exist, there was a thing called Career fair. I went to SL1M Career fair held in Alor Setar. I handed my resume to many companies but none called for on the spot interviews. So I went back just like that. When I was half way back home, Company H called me for interview. But I declined because I almost reached home. After the call, my mom asked who called me? I told her I declined the interview and she was mad because I turned down the opportunity. She asked me to call company H and told them I will go to the interview.

    Alhamdulillah, I was offered to be one of the SLIM trainee. Thank God I listened to my mom. If I didn't, I let go one of the best opportunities in my life. I have grow a lot from being a SL1M trainee and many opportunities I received are from there.

  10. Executive, Validation - Still Company H  - FAILED
    After almost a year working as SL1M trainee in company H, they invite me for interview to absorb me permanently. I thought the interview will be easy because I work in that department already but I was wrong. It wasn't. I was speechless most of the time and I didn't feel the connection with me and interviewers. I was not confident and my answers were just safe answers. So I failed the interview.

    When I looked back, the reason I failed was not because I was nervous. I am very determined and harworking person but I didn't have passion in that field. And it showed through my eyes and answers.

    Quick tips: If you don't feel any chemistry/2 ways communication with interviewers, most likely you will fail

  11. Regulatory Affairs Specialist - Company I - FAILED
    Towards the end of my SL1M days, I started looking for permanent jobs. So this one, I received a phone call from recruitment agency for this position. Then I went to their office for interview. I came all the way from Klang to PJ, but the interview was only for 5 minutes. I know some recruitment agencies just call people for interviews to reach their KPI, and I guess this one was included too.

  12. Customer Service Specialist - Company J - PASSED
    For this one, I went to a career fair in Mid Valley. I listed down all the companies I wanted to send my resume. After going through all the companies, Company J was the last one on my list to submit resume. My friends were already tired and wanted to go back. So I told them to go first because I wanted to approach company J. I spoke to HR and then he suggested me CS deparment. He brought me to a lady (who then became my boss) and we spoke about what her department do. Although the job title was Customer Service, the job was actually more on order processing and complaint management (p/s: job description is wayy more important than the title). I gave her my resume and she said she will contact me within 2 weeks.

    After 2 weeks, she still doesn't contact me. I was worried because I really really want to work there. So I opened LinkedIn, looked for the HR and write to her. She asked me to submit my resume and then she called me the day after to go for interview. 

    On the interview day, when I went to Company J, I was impressed because the office was so modern and beautiful. I came an hour earlier, and they just finished interview a candidate so they decided to start my session earlier. They ask basic question like other companies asked but I could answer smoothly. What convinced them to hire me was because my effort to approach and follow up with them. That showed my determination. Because for this job, it's easy to hire people, but it's hard to make them stay.

    A week later, I received the offer and that's where I work from April 2019 until now [but I already resigned and my last is on 21st July 2021]

  13. Medical Lab Technologist - Hospital K - FAILED
    I went to this interview after 2 days interview with company J. I already give up on Medical Lab Technologist job because I know it was underpaid and you have to work on weekends & public holidays. But I just went to the interview for the sake of experience.

    The interview was okay but when it came to the salary, I said I requested for RM2XXX, but she said it was to high and then I don't have experience in medical lab. I told her I have experienced doing internship at medical lab and my SL1M training also I work in chemical lab. She said it was not enough to request that much. 

    So I told this capitalist hospital, minimum amount for a degree graduate with no experiences should be at least RM2XXX. Other interviews I went will offer at least that much. She was speechless when I said that but of course I didn't get the job after saying such things.
From all these interviews, I notice the patttern for interviews questions for experienced people are pretty similar:         
  1. Firstly they will ask you to introduce yourself and explained about your background.
  2. Then, the interviews will ask what do you know about us or why you apply for this job because they wanted to know have you did your research on the company and the job.
  3. The interviews will ask a lot about yourself like your weakness, strengh, achievement and etc because they want to see if your personalities can fit into the work.
  4. Do ask a lot of questions. It will help to create 2 way communications and show that you are interested. You can ask questions like can you tell more about the team I'll be working with and the company culture or what are your expectations towards new staffs?
  5. Lastly, doa and tawakal because you have do the best. Whether you get this job or not, you already have your work now and you can always try again :)
Each time I failed, it ended up with me crying in bed all night. It hurts a lot to think you've done your best but still it is not enough. Sometimes I think I'm very useless. And when you see everyone has started their careers but you're the only one left behind, of course you feel happy for them, but at the same time, there is pain in your heart knowing your future is uncertain.

God is fair, He is just testing us. After having a very smooth path all these while, this failure is just to test my faith. To let me wait. To let me be patience. To let me discover everything I never imagined.
"What has reached you was never meant to miss you and what has missed you was never meant to reach you." Prophet Muhammad pbuh
P/S - I'm writing this 3 years later, already for working 3 years++. . You will get there sooner or later. Things that make me worried before has doesn't really matter anymore. In fact, I believe that Allah has carved my path according to what I need and not what I want.

When I looked back, I was really frustrated when I have to go through all this. But now I feel really grateful for being able to experience many different interviews.

To myself, you have walked this far, and I'm so proud of you. We already did it and we will always do our best. No matter what happen, just give your best and never give up.

Read part 2 here

Till then,
Adlina

My biggest regrets

 Assalamualaikum and Hi,

I'm not sure if I should write about this here, but this is the space for me to rant so why not right? Everyone have their regrets in life, so do I. Everything in life happed for a reason but there are things we wish we can change (we can't anyway). I have 3 regrets which I want to share for me to remember and improve myself, any maybe anyone can take this advise to stop making mistakes like I did,

p/s: This is so embarrassing but I really need to write it here 

1. Focus on loving someone but myself

Back when I was young, I focus way too much on love/girl-guy relationship. Although I have a boyfriend later on in my teenage years, my younger days since standard 6 until Form 5 was filled with the idea of loving someone and finding the one. During those years, getting married at young age was a thing and it went viral so I put that on my wish list (HAHA I feel so stupid while writing this). I read back my diary back in high school and mostly I wrote about this guy that I like for 5 years. I should focus on writing more on myself, my life in MRSM and life growth instead. Then after high school I was in relationship with this one guy that I thought going to be the love of my life (LOML). My focus was to finish my studies and be with him. In the end I end up being tested with waiting for him to finish his studies for 3 years but end up he left me for someone he met in his uni. And worst, I spend almost a year recovering from the pain of breaking up. All these years, 13 years to be exact, my heart and mind was filled with the idea of loving someone but myself. These guys never stopped me from chasing my dreams and be a better person, but I did. All other dreams, all the improvement I should made were blinded by the idea of loving someone and someone will love me for who I am. 

I only realize this when I was brokenhearted. When no one else love me except me. When my heart can't love anyone else but me. No one can be blame on this but me. There are a lot of things I can do if I focus on loving myself instead of guys. A lot. At the end of 25 years old only I realize that the only person who can make me happy is me. I can do a lot of things, learn new skills and improve myself a lot just within a year. Imagine if I use the years I wasted wisely? 

Invest in yourself. Be the better version you, the best that you can be, beyond your imagination. One day the right person will come when I love myself and  happy with my own lifes. When? I'm not sure. But someday he will. And if he didn't, my life is already filled with the purpose, love and happiness that I have on my own.

2. Didn't plan the future wisely

When I was 17, my exam result were very excellent and I'm able to apply for scholarship. When I choosing the uni and course, I choose based on 3 things; the duration, the place and the course. Why? Because I wanted to finish fast (to get married young), go abroad and learn Science. I didn't completely regret it. 

But if I could make a better decision; I will choose a course I'm passionate at with better job prospects. I wish I do research more on what I'm going to choose, study the job market and ask opinions from people with experience. My choice is not bad, but it limits certain things that I wanted. Nevertheless, my uni days were one of the best despite the regrets that I have. For SPM leavers, good luck in choosing the course you will further your studies. Choose wisely!

Anyway, in life there are some best things happened unplanned but, things like this, do plan it wisely :)

3. Leave the house too soon.

I had my best time in MRSM, I really did. It made me become the person I am today. It's just if I were given an option again, I will go there when I was 16. I think 13 years old is very young to be apart from family. I became quite distance with my family when I went to boarding school and missed a lot of important event. 

After I finish boarding school, I went to uni straight away, thus there's no time with family. Once I finished my studies, I was unemployed for 1 year. At that time, I realize what I have lost. So I spend my time wisely with them. After I started working, I always go back during holidays, even the short ones to see them. When Covid19 came, the company I work with start to work from home. I decided to go back to my hometown and stay with them. 

And I never regret my decision. I managed to get back what I lost. I love my family more when I'm older. But still, that's something I wish I did when I was younger.

Of course at the end of the day, life will always be okay! If we make wrong choices, we learn from them and it will become our greatest life lessons. This post is just for me to express what I feel and if somebody comes across this, it might help them.

I guess that's all for now, thanks for reading. Take care and stay safe :)

Till then,

Adlina

Questions to ask myself #5

Assalamualaikum and Hi,
  1. What do you really wish you knew when you were younger?
    People will always change

  2. What songs can you sing that I’ll know after hearing two words from the song?Ronan Keating When you say nothing at all

  3. If you were given $100,000, but it could only be used to upgrade your shower or bathtub what upgrades would you make?
    Bathtub installed with Netflix and Spotify inside 

  4. When was the last time you laughed so hard you cried?
    2019

  5. What do you wish you had more time for?
    Time to discover myself

  6. When was the last time you had a gut feeling about something that turned out to be correct? How about a time your gut feeling was wrong?
    September 2020. Usually my gut feeling is never wrong

  7. What would you do if one day you woke up and every person was just gone without a trace?
    I will Googled and do my best to investigate where they went

  8. What’s your “and then it got worse” story?
    I though you're the one and then it got worse

  9. What’s the biggest lie that someone told you?
    That they will never leave

  10. If you could dedicate your life to solving one problem, what problem would you choose?
    To make everyone happy

  11. What jobs exist because people are selfish?
    Politicians

  12. What always lets you down and what never lets you down?
    Expectations always let me down and food never let me down

  13. What’s the weirdest thing you have seen on someone’s phone?
    I haven't seen anything weird yet so far

  14. What’s your favorite way to meet new people?
    Randomly anywhere

  15. What areas in your life do you have high hopes for and what are those high hopes?
    I hope that I will improve a lot as a person in my career and relationships

  16. Who was the most spoiled person you personally have met?
    My cousin

  17. What’s the most pleasing accent to hear your language spoken with?
    Britishhh

  18. What website or app has completely changed your life for better or for worse?
    For better Al Quran apps. For worse - Social media apps

  19. How different is the social environment for kids in school now versus 10 or 20 years ago? 
    Not real and adventurous compared to our times.

  20. Most people want to be wealthy for one reason or another. Why do you want to be wealthy? What would be the biggest benefit of being wealthy?
    To live easy life because you will have time for yourself and family
Till then,
Adlina

26 random advice for 26 y/o me

Assalamualaikum,

Today I turned 26 years a lot. There's a lot of things on my mind and I guess the best thing to do is to write them down.

  1. Do not worry too much
  2. Things won't get easier but you will be stronger
  3. Take care of your health
  4. Drink enough water
  5. Have a good walk once in a while when it's too overwhelming
  6. Breathe when you feel it's so much to take
  7. Cry when you're sad and be stronger after that
  8. Go shower whenever you feel sleepy or lazy
  9. Stop procrastinating. Do it now!
  10. Never wait in uncertainty
  11. Change is a good thing
  12. Believe in yourself - you have gone through a lot
  13. Let go of your past
  14. Don't be afraid to fall in love again
  15. Write when you overthink
  16. Read when you can't think
  17. Reflect on yourself
  18. Pray to Allah all the time for everything and about anything
  19. Appreciate everyone in your life
  20. Less talking, more listening
  21. Forgive yourself
  22. Look presentable
  23. Save and invest money
  24. Start my day early
  25. Live life happily
  26. And always be grateful for every single thing in life
Happy 26th birthday Adlina Maisarah.
I'm proud of who you have become and always will do 😊

Till then,
Adlina. 

Social Media Hiatus on Ramadhan

Assalamualaikum and Hi,

[written on 25/3/21]

I've been wanting doing this since a long time ago but it's always on and off. For the past few months, a lot of things happened and sometimes it's very suffocating for me to endure. I tried to get off social media by distracting myself, surprisingly it works to help make me feel better and be more productive! However, it didn't last long because I will always go back. The longest I managed to resist is 1 week, I guess? So since Ramadhan is approaching, I wanted to make the most out of it to do things I really want to do. I'll update my Ramadhan here instead of on social media and post it on 1st Syawal. So for these few days till Ramadhan, I will still be on social media at limited time. I hope this will work, because what I love the most are reading, writing and to be productive in life :)

WEEK 1 & 2 [written on 23/4/21]
So first week on Ramadhan, my plan failed, I can't stop scrolling because of FOMO and I always love to tweet. Besides on week 2 I got my period, so I can't read Al-Quran thus I spend most of my time scrolling. My terrible period pain also made me lied down and scroll. From Twitter to FB to IG and then now to Tiktok also. The thing is a lot of scrolling made me felt so tired. It drained my energy and made my eyes tired. Nevertheless, I still keep scrolling. In March and April, I haven't read much also because of this. Now I can fast already, so I'm motivated to do this.

However, we can't give up okay! So I Googled on How to Stop Endless Scrolling on Social Media and below are some times that I found.

  • Set Social Media Time - This one I always tried but failed. This time I want to go a little bit extreme which is can online on weekend only.
  • Delete apps - I can't do this!!! I will opt for log out from all account only
  • Don't Sleep with your phone - I sleep with my phone I just need to put it aside once I got in my bed
  • Turn off Notification - I'm sure this will work!
  • Keep your phone out of sight - I will on working days, since now I have Tablet and Kindle already.

So let's do our best for week 3!!!

WEEK 3 [written on 2/5/21]
My goals are:

  • To complete Al Quran as much as I can this weekend - completed 40%
  • Finish Google Digital Marketing certificate - completed all courses, only left final exam
  • Do planner for May - DONE!!! 
  • Start spring cleaning - I cleaned my room and started vacuuming the whole house
For week 3, I uninstalled social media but still look at it on browser. It does help in reducing screen time. Overall I did okay but I have the feelings I should do more! I'm proud of myself for spending 1 hour plus per day to read Quran. Little did I know getting to understand Quran made me love it even more. 

I still need improvement in:
Waking up early at 4am - must sleep latest at 11pm
Procrastinating - get things done ASAP
To read and understand Quran more - I improved a lot since last year but still want it to be better and much better
Reduce time on social media - already reduced a lot but must reduce more

    WEEK 4 [written on 19/5/21]
    My goals are:
    • To focus on reading understand Al Quran - done by 50%
    • To start reading books - not done because work quite demanding
    As for social media, uninstalled everything so that reduce my screen time a lot.
    I start wake up early at 4-5am for tahajjud. Although I'm so sleepy because I work in the morning, I tried to wake up half an hour before sahur.

    WEEK 5 [written on 19/5/21]
    On this week I start taking 9 days leave in total to focus on final days of Ramadhan. So my goals are:
    • Focus on finding Lailatul Qadar, reading & understanding Al Quran
    • Fulfil all the unfinished list
    For the last 10 days, I managed to wake up early for tahajjud and read Al-Quran in the morning. I did some spring clean too. I'm only able to finish 70% of the Al-Quran but I think it is quite a lot more than last year. I'm grateful that I took long leave to spend time for ibadah.

    Overall, this Ramadhan is second best than 2019, almost close to that best, but it's best in terms of spending Ramadhan at home.

    I hope after Ramadhan, I will be consistently do ibadah like I did in Ramadhan. 

    Anyway salam Syawal and stay safe :) Covid cases has reached 6k today, the highest so far. Take care everyone!

    Till then,
    Adlina.

    Questions to ask myself #4

    Assalamualaikum and Hi,
    1. Who is the humblest person you know?
      -My father
    2. What is quite possibly the most annoying thing ever?
      -Ghosting people
    3. What do you wish people would stop asking you?
      -I hate to say this but it's, "When are you getting married?' or "You should choose better jobs"
    4. What is the most unusual fear you have?
      -Driving
    5. What is your favorite TV show?
      -K-drama
    6. What’s the most ridiculous argument you’ve had?
      -I can't think of one. But maybe arguing about food?
    7. What’s the biggest lesson life has taught you?
      -Love unconditionally but never trust people completely
    8. What is increasingly becoming socially acceptable?
      -Oversharing
    9. If you could choose anyone living or dead, who would you choose to lead our country?
      -Jacinda Arden
    10. What app on your phone do you wish you used more?
      -Quran, and Words for writing
    11. What is your very first memory?
      -Eating with my dad
    12. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve said or done around someone you had a crush on?
      -When he knew I like him
    13. What doesn’t exist but you desperately want / need it?
      -Easy life
    14. What are you most grateful for?
      -My family
    15. If you could hear every time someone said something good about you or something negative about you, which would you choose?
      -Of course something good!
    16. What do you wish you could re-live? What’s something weird that you recommend everyone trying at least once?
      -Working life. To just go everywhere you want, alone, it's very niceeeee.
    17. What piece of culture or trend has died out, but you would like to see it make a comeback?
      -Of course life before Covid
    18. What’s something from your childhood that used to be common but now is pretty rare?
      -Playing outside
    19. What was the worst phase you went through?
      -Being cheated on
    20. Looking back on your life, what have you done that has given you the most satisfaction?
      -Going out of comfort zone. And so far 2019 is the best year in adult life.
    I guess that's for now.

    Till then,
    Adlina

    Question to ask myself #3

    Assalamualaikum and Hi,

    I think I should take a break on deep questions so just answer easy simple questions about my likes and dislikes. Enjoy!
    1. What random stranger has had the biggest impact on your life?
      - Most of the time, Grab drivers and people I met on the train.
    2. How quickly do you jump to conclusions about people?
      - Before this it's very very quick. Since few years ago, I try to understand first before jumping into conclusion
    3. How would the world change if super heroes and super villains actually existed?
      - Life will be like in the movies, they will fight and destroy buildings. Haha just kidding. Pros: superheroes will be there to save the day. Cons: Everybody wants to be a super hero to save the day. Most of the time these super people will fight for power
    4. What is the most important change that should be made to your country’s education system?
      - To focus more on life skills more than academic achievement
    5. What is something you think you will regret in the future not starting now and what is something you already regret not starting sooner?
      - Becoming a writer and write my own book
    6. What part of your culture are you most and least proud of?
      - Food and kindness
    7. What’s the worst and best thing about being female?
      - Not feeling safe sometimes when you went out alone and society didn't judge us for being weak
    8. Are humans fundamentally different than animals? If so, what makes us different?
      - Our brain - we have 'akal' or intellect to think. And our lifestyles.
    9. If you got stuck in the elevator and was forced to listen to only one song, which would it be?
      -All Afgan Shah Reza's songs.
    10. What is the best advice anyone has ever given you?
      - If the time you use the time you spend on worrying wisely, you already can finish doing what you worry about
    11. If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
      - Japan or Korea. Maybe countryside area, cool weather with good public transport.
    12. What movie or book character are you most similar to?
      -Adilah from My series books
    13. You can broadcast one sentence to every TV channel and radio in the world and have it translated to each country’s language. What sentence do you say?
      - Stop worrying and live life.
    14. What fact are you really surprised that more people don’t know about?
      - That using credit card can help you save money
    15. What are you completely over and done with?
      My ex
    16. What memory do you just keep going back to?
      High school
    17. What’s the most immature thing your parents do?
      - Being childish, maybe?
    18. What are you most passionate about and what do you wish you were more passionate about?
      - Books, and I wish I more passionate in caring about others.
    19. Where is the last place you would ever go?
      - Hot countries
    20. What’s something that you’ve never been able to do well?
      - Sadly it's driving. But, I will drive this year. I WILL!
    That's all for now, I guess.

    Till then,
    Adlina

    Changes

     Bad things I want to change Good Habits I want to develop

    1. Stop being judgmental Get the facts first before jumping into conclusion 
    2. Not listening to others Let people explain and you listen
    3. Not understanding Try to see the world in other peoples' perspectives
    4. Speak too much Speak less, read and listen more
    5. Too loud and outspoken Be more polite and quiet when needed.
    6. Always procrastinate Do everything on time - never delay
    7. Overreact Stay calm in everything and move forward
    8. Overthinking Start doing. Find solutions. Solve problems
    9. Stop being annoying Learn to communicate effectively

    That's for now. Will add on when I find more :)

    Till then,
    Adlina

    10 good things about me.

    [This post has been staying in the draft since 2017, now only I managed to update them all. Nevertheless, it's still hard to find the good in you compared to flaws, so I'm putting it here so I can reflect back whenever needed]

    Assalamualaikum and Hi,
    Few weeks ago, I tried to list down 20 good things about me, but umm, I only wrote like 2 or 3. It's so easy to list down negative things about yourself (I can list 100 of them), yet it's so hardd to know what are your strength. So, I cut down the number from 20 to 10 (so lazy to think). Here they are
     
    1. I loveeeeee food and coookinggg!!
    Cooking is like therapy for me. I'm not good at it but after a lot of practice, I improved a lot (not an expert yet, but still amazing). I love to try recipes of healthy cooking. My passion is more on that kind of meal because what we eat define who we are, and to maintain our health & shape. However I do try other recipes such as Malaysian food, Korean and etc. You can click here to view my recipe here
    Fun fact: I become so cranky if I'm hungry. And the key to my heart is via food :) 

    2. I'm soo patient!
    Sometimes I'm think I'm not but after thinking twice I know I am. I'm not a person who swears a lot when I'm angry or on a daily basis (I do but it's like one in a million year). If I'm disappointed or sad about something or someone, I will stay on the bed in my room until I feel better. Most of the time I will sleep and usually when I wake up the bad feelings have already gone. It is not easy for me to get angry but when I do, you and I both will regret it. I am very patient to wait for what I want, like stuffs or person. The only problem is, sometimes being too patient made my inner temper want to explode.

    3. A loyal person.
    Yes I do. My circle is small and I love to keep it small. It will be easier to manage. For me the most important thing is to be loyal to your family, because it the end, family is the one that will never left. Friends will always be there for you but at one point they can't be the same like before (because of family, commitments and other stuffs). I'm so grateful all my friendship are low maintainance. We're busy living our own lives but always be there for each other when needed. My father said to me, do care for your friends but never overly attached. Overly attached will lead to disappointment. In love relationship, I can say I am very loyal. I've been in relationship for three times in my life. The third time is already 5 years now and I hope it will last forever.  The key to loyalty in all relationships is to always tolerate.  My relationship had failed after 7 years, and when that happened, I choose to let go nicely, despite the pain. Nevertheless, no matter how hard it is in the relationship, I never left, until I was left behind.

    4. I'm independent and responsible
    Staying at boarding school since 13 has been making me and independent girl since then. I don't really like to burden anyone with my problems. I used my money (allowance from MARA) to pay for my bills and expenses. Besides, I also started a small business with my sister to gain extra income. 
    In my final year, I worked at the library at night as student helper not only to gain money, but also to discipline myself to stay in the library and study. The one and only thing I can't do is driving. I don't know why I'm so afraid to drive. Maybe because I am trauma because I used to be so clumsy before this. As I cannot drive, I always depend on other people to go anywhere. Whenever I'm in KL, Selangor or Penang, I definitely use public transport if I want to go anywhere alone/when my friends do not have car. I've tried everything like MRT, LRT, BRT, commuter, monorail and buses. I'm so thankful Uber and Grab exist because I use them a lot when I work before. Thank you to my friends too for driving me around! ❤  
    Now, as working adult, I tried a lot of new things and manage my own life. Travelling abroad with family and friends, finding jobs, move houses, and manage my financial. I'm nowhere near perfect, but I'm making progress, always. 

    5. I work well under pressure.
    Being the eldest child already gives me the pressure to do the best. Hence, I always work hard to achieve my goals since I was young. I think the point in my life where I start to be really strong to handle stress is when I started studying in Monash. 
    Although the university is in Malaysia, the education follows Australian system is applied here. For me, the Australian system is quite tough. 6 credits per subject, making it to be 144 credits throughout my degree. My schedules are packed with 2 or 3 lab sessions per week that also requires you to do lab report, many deadlines to catch up and you have to study at the same time, already trained me to handle pressure very well. 

    In my final year I decide to work in the library as student helper at night. I made a brave decision to do a research project for my elective unit. I really struggle a lot between studying, doing a project and working at the same time. I work so hard at that time and I am blessed with help from amazing people around me. In the end, I manage to graduate on time which is I think quite impossible at first, I did.

    Now in working world, my current job is quite pressure because have to multitask, but so far I'm able to manage all the pressure for 2 years. 

    6. A brave girl
    I'm very proud of this one. As a person coming from Kedah, I'm took a big risk coming to KL for my studies. I always heard how KL is a scary place and you might be culture shock there. But Alhamdulillah it was smooth for me. I've been to different parts of KL and Selangor so far, it's been a very amazing journey for me. That's only one example. There are many risks in life that I took I my life that shaped me to be who I am today. And I'm so grateful for that. The brave Adlina Maisarah. 

    7. High integrity
    Another strong character of mine is high integrity. I'm the kind of person that always follow the book/what's right since young no matter how wrong it is. I will always stand for the right thing. That's the kind of person I am until I went to university, I started to be more flexible. I still hold on to my principles, but as long as it's not damaging to anyone, I still can tolerate. 

    8. Adlina the Explorer            
    Having the Science trait in me makes me curious about everything. Therefore, I love to explore new things. I will challenge myself to dive in and learn about it until I can manage. Like now, I'm currently typing using the keyboard on mobile phone because typing by touch screen feels so different. I believe out there, there are many interesting stuffs for us to learn. If we open our heart to explore, we surely can manage it well. 

    9. Reading is my lifeee
    I really love reading so so much! I have passion for books since I was kid, but life was so hectic    and busy. When I went through breakup, it was turning point in my life where I started to read again. I never stopped ever since. Then I bought Kindle (you can read here), and I just continuously read. Start from 2021, I start doing notes of everything I read, because you will forget, so I want to keep notes where I can look through and always remember what I've read. You can read about all the books I've read here.

    10. I  will always improvise myself.
    I'm a very imperfect person with many many flaws. However, I will try my best to be a better person that who I am before. Be it in career, life and relationships, I'm still improving. I accept critism no matter how painful it is to digest. Then I will reflect on myself and ways to improve. I guess that's the thing I love most about myself. 

    Woaaah, that's so hard to write. Like I said we are more prone to seeing our weakness than goodness. I guess it's a good thing because it reminds me everyone have their own strengths, which we always forgot. Soooo, Adlina Maisarah, you are doing good, so be kind to yourself. 

    Till then, 
    Adlina

    Recipe : Made with love by Abah

    Assalamualaikum and Hi,

    My Abah is not like other ordinary father. He is very unique in his own ways. One of his uniqueness is he loves to cook, and he takes control of our kitchen. Abah has been cooking for our family since I was little but what I can remember it was maybe since I was 11 or 12. Mama is also a great chef but yeah she is extremely happy if Abah wants to cook (so she can rest more and it means less work to do!). My Abah is a very particular chef,  he memorised every single step of the recipe such as how many grams, or how much to put. Usually in our culture, we just follow our instinct, or 'agak agak'. That does not apply to my dad because he is precise. Even when he wants to make drink, he has his own measurement. To make tea add seven spoon of sugar to a jug of water. And it works! I want to share two recipes of food I always ask him to make for me, mashed potatoes with gravy and sambal kicap (sweet spicy soy sauce). I'm always a big fan of potatoes! I can eat them all they everyday. Fried, boiled, mashed, baked but not raw..just give them to me I will eat them all. I remember when I was in boarding school and studying in Monash, I always ask him to make mashed potatoes for me. He often nag me saying it is easy to make blablabla (another uniqueness, he loves to nag). One day, I think after I already graduate, I watch him making mashed potatoes and gravy. And it is when I ask the recipe from him! I want to learn more from him because if one day if he is not around, I can always be with him through food. Same goes to my mom too. Okay, as for sambal kicap, it was the best one I've ever had too!!! We eat it with chicken soup, oxtail soup and soto. Ohh so yumm!!. These two are the best recipes ever from him. 

    So here they are;

    Mashed potatoes with gravy

    Mashed potatoes:
    Potatoes, milk, and salt

    1. Boiled peeled potatoes with salt and some oil.
    2. Mashed the potatoes, add milk slowly until achieve consistency you desired. Add salt according to your taste.

    Gravy:
    Leftover water from boiling potatoes, chicken stock, onions, soy sauce, black pepper, cornstarch, and salt.

    1. Using leftover water from boiling potatoes, add on 1 cubed chicken stock, black pepper and onions according to your taste.
    2. Once water is boiling, add in soy sauce for colour and salt as per your taste. Then add cornstarch until it thickens. After that, taste and adjust accordingly.

    Sambal kicap:
    10 green chilies
    2 spoon sugar
    1 clove garlic
    sweet soy sauce

    1. Crush chilies and garlic using chopper or pestle and mortar. Then add in sugar and sweet soy sauce. Mix until achieve desired consistency.

    This recipe is so good to eat with fried tofu or soto, or just plain soup. For 2nd recipe, usually my sister will do it at home.

    I think that's all for now.

    Till then,
    Adlina